I think making time to bond with the child can really help. Get to know the child, know what they like, don’t like, what upsets them, what makes them happy, etc.. Remind youself that thats a child, and they are looking up to you as their mother. Do things for that child, that you would do with your own child. With time and patients, and bonding, I think its possible to love a child that is not biologically yours.