How did you learn to be a parent? And how do you know when your parenting is helping to create a wise and capable future adult and when it is getting in the way? Having spent years working with parents, I see some repeating parenting styles – some productive, many …
Read More »Message To Our Kids: Who You Are Is Just Right
Our world speaks at us. It tells us what is valuable, what success looks like, what to believe, what to drive, how to live and on and on… With so many “directives” coming at us, how do we help our kids discover, develop and live who they really are? We …
Read More »With Kids, Focus On Progress Over Perfection
We want our kids to succeed in life. That seems reasonable and loving. But the way we encourage them to get to that success may be unreasonable and unrealistic and do more harm than good. We want our kids to have straight As in school, get accepted to best colleges, …
Read More »5 Great Questions To Ask Your Kids
Parents tell – it’s what they do. That is until they stop doing it. For so many of us, we think our job as parents is to tell our kids how to be in life – what to believe, what to do, how to live and on and on. For …
Read More »What Do Kids Really Need From Their Parents?
What do your kids really need from you? Is it to have a nice house and a day full of activities? Is it to have healthy food and holiday celebrations? Is it to have regular vacations and nice clothes? Is it to have new technology and spending money? This is …
Read More »Don’t Do More FOR Your Kids, Do More WITH Your Kids
Face it, and the studies prove it, we overparent our kids. We tell more than ask, direct more than discuss and control more than guide. Maybe it is our scary world that makes us this way (we feel we have to keep our kids safe). Maybe we are just like …
Read More »Sometimes The Best Thing A Parent Can Say Is Nothing
Parents tell. It’s what we do. We have been on the planet longer than our kids so we think we know what they need and how they need it. Over-parenting – our parents did this. Their parents did this. It’s easy to see why it still happens. And I’ll agree …
Read More »OMG – I Sound Just Like My Parents
I am sure you have heard some of these: “If your friends jumped off a bridge, would you jump too?” “Stop crying or I’ll really give you something to cry about!” “Wait until your father get’s home!” “Eat the things on your plate – you are lucky to have food. …
Read More »What if you don’t FEEL like you are “In Love” anymore?
What happens if you don’t FEEL in love anymore? Can you think back to the times that you felt happy and full of love for your spouse? How long ago was it? Do you miss it or has it been too long in your mind? What made those feelings go …
Read More »Letting Go of Expectations
If you’ve been following me for any amount of time, you know how I love a good spiritual kick in the pants. Today I got it over and over, and I finally surrender to the message. The first thing I read this morning was a beautiful blog post by my …
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