Have you ever been in a situation or a relationship that you KNEW wasn’t right for you, but you stuck around anyway, hoping to change it?
The truth is, we often spend A LOT of energy trying to fix other people and force outcomes in our external reality. But few of us actually take the time to stop and really look at the person in the mirror and to make changes within OURSELVES.
You see, the situations and people in our external reality are a mere reflection of who we are, on the inside.
Once we accept this responsibility, it becomes much easier to make peace with others around us, to let go of toxic relationships and to attract healthy and supportive opportunities into our lives.
If you’ve been dealing with a frustrating situation or if you just want to invite more love, happiness and peace into your life… try these 5 simple, yet POWERFUL steps! ☺
Step 1: Look at yourself before judging others.
As human beings, we can be quick to judge and blame other people or external circumstances for a problem, without realizing that it may be a reflection of something we dislike about ourselves.
The next time you find yourself doing this, take a moment to think about WHY this person or situation is actually making you angry.
You’ll be surprised at how often you can learn something new about yourself and why you behave and respond the way you do. Plus, you’ll usually improve your relationships with others in the process too!
Step 2: Assume responsibility.
When you accept responsibility for your thoughts, actions, emotions and behaviors, as well as your current external circumstances, you’ll be empowered to make decisions and react in ways that only bring you closer to the life you desire.
This level of responsibility also brings you an immense amount of freedom, because you’ll know that you have the power to transform your life.
Step 3: Accept people for who they.
It’s important to realize that everyone is different and that people won’t always behave exactly the way you think they should.
When you make a conscious decision to accept people as they are, even if you don’t agree with every decision they make, you’ll feel less stressed and happier in your personal relationships.
Step 4: Love yourself.
This is a BIG one! As I mentioned earlier, making peace with those around you requires you to love the skin you’re in!
Spend time alone and get in touch with the authentic version of YOU 🙂
Let go of any judgments, comparisons to others and self-hatred that you may be holding on to by reminding yourself that those negative thought patterns are only hurting you.
Instead acknowledge your strengths, your abilities and your unique traits. Focusing on yourself and learning to love who you are will help you release the feeling of wanting to ‘fix’ others.
Step 5: Be grateful.
Every person and situation you encounter in your life is an opportunity for you to learn, expand and to grow.
If you’re feeling frustrated, try looking at the person or situation from a different perspective. When you think of ways that this situation could make you a better person, you can suddenly see it as a valuable gift instead of a challenge.